In puppy play, the Dominant is called the Owner or Handler, and the submissive is called the pup.ĭuring the scene, pups stereotypically act like dogs - they bark, walk on all fours, and come when called (when they feel obedient). Pony play and kitty play also fall into this category. Puppy play is part of a group of scenes that fall under the umbrella of Animal Training or Animal Play, in which submissives act like animals. Puppy play is one scene in the world of kink that is growing rapidly in popularity. While it may sound extreme, fisting is one of the most erotic and intense experiences you can have with someone (and can produce the most mind-blowing orgasms) when done correctly. You can’t use too much lube in fisting - lube should be everywhere by the time you’re done. If this is something you want to try, go slowly and use lots of lube.
When done incorrectly, fisting can cause severe injury. Novices generally start with toys and dildos and work their way up. With practice, skilled fisters (guys who give fists) and fistees (guys who take them) can go all the way to the elbow and even the shoulder - or get double-fisted. This is the practice of slowly stretching open the anus with fingers until the whole hand is inserted. In this case, a snap of the fingers or a slap on the thigh means “stop right now.”. Since being gagged is one of this writer's biggest turn-ons, the “safe word” is not a word at all. In kink porn, the industry standard safe word is “red,” so that’s what most kinksters use. We don’t like unsafe Doms because they can really hurt people. If a Dom ignores a safe word, they are considered “unsafe” and will not be welcomed in the kink community. Like hard limits, safe words are nonnegotiable. A safe word is a word or phrase that submissives use to stop a scene. Safe words are vital for beginners and experienced kinksters alike. If either one of these appear during a scene, I’m finished, and playtime stops. This writer's hard limits are the presence of blood and/or feces. A “hard limit,” by contrast, is nonnegotiable. For instance, drinking urine is a soft limit for this writer - an act not done in most circumstances, but perhaps for special occasions (like this year's Folsom Street Fair). “Soft limits” are things that you’re mostly against, but in certain circumstances may try. Limits are important, and every submissive guy’s limits are different.Ī limit is the point beyond which you do not allow Dominants to go. (This writer does not encourage beginners to jump immediately into extreme 24/7 scenes, which can be emotionally and psychologically damaging without ample discussion and experience beforehand.). While the length of time that scenes last vary based on pre-established limits, scenes typically have defined beginning and end points. By this second definition, a scene begins when a sub and Dom start to play. For instance, watersports (see #17) is a scene that many people are into.ĭebate occurs because the term is also used to mean the actual playtime between a Dom and sub. This is a somewhat debated term in the world of kink, but most kinksters agree that a “scene” is one particular kink, the culture surrounding it, and its community of practitioners. Simply put: A fetish is a particular stimulus (feet, gas masks, certain items of clothing), while a kink is just something you’re into (bondage, spanking, etc.). A fetish is a bit more particular.įetishes are generally considered nonhuman objects that enhance sexual arousal, and for some people, they may be required for sexual arousal. A kink is an unconventional sexual interest - that’s it. But since some kinksters (kinky people) stress their difference, we will define them separately. These are the broadest terms on this list because, colloquially, they have become synonymous for most people. You might stumble across a term you didn’t know existed - and something you really want to try. Regardless if you’re kinky or vanilla, knowing some basic terminology will help you navigate Scruff profiles and boost your confidence at your local leather bar. But thanks to the Internet and porn giants like San Francisco-based, fetish play has stepped onto the main floor over the last decade.
If gay life was a giant ballroom (and it kind of is), kinky leathermen have been lingering in the back, in the shadows, for generations. I feel like if someone is going to spank my kid, it ought to be my decision what deserves it, not a teacher’s. Itsbobonline said: My problem with corporal punishment is it being at the discretion of someone other than the parent. Fit straight guys receiving real punishment.